‘My daughter, 4, has a common name I want to change it before she starts school’
Many parents wrestle with whether to choose a traditional and common name for their child or to go for something a little more adventurous, but most people will stick with their decision once they’ve made it. But one mum has said that while she was happy with her daughter’s name for four years, she now wants to have it changed – because she’s worried it might be “too common” for her school life.
The mum claimed she thought she was “very original” when she named her daughter Esmée, as she hadn’t heard anyone called it in around two decades, but has since found out her daughter will be one of three girls in her class with the same name. So now, the mum wants to have the moniker changed, even though her little girl is already four years old.
In an unearthed post on Mumsnet – which was initially made in 2018 – she wrote: “My daughter is 4 years old and I gave her a name which, I thought, was very original as I hadn’t heard another girl called it in about 20 years. Only to find when she started nursery another girl called the same but spelt differently.
“My daughter is due to start full-time education in September and there will be two other girls with the same name, so three in the class including my daughter. Now there’s another in my other child’s class.”
The mum said she was “totally hacked off” by the news that her daughter won’t be the only Esmée in her class, and admitted she wanted her to have a unique name because she had lived with being “one of five” people with the same name during her own school life, so didn’t want the same to happen to her kids.
She added: “I’m totally hacked off and really upset by this. Maybe it’s an overreaction but in the 1970’s I was one of five kids named the same in my class and vowed never to have my children live with the same. Now history is being repeated.
“Would it be unreasonable to change my daughter’s name before September? I love her name but hate it’s so common now.”
Commenters on the post were split over the idea, as while some said the mum was “crazy” for wanting to change her daughter’s name, others claimed that “lots of people” change their name so it’s not a completely bizarre idea.
One person said: “I don’t think it’s up to you, surely it’s up to your daughter? It’s her name now, not yours! She might not care that she shares her name in the same way that you did.”
While another added: “Are you crazy? She’s 4! You can’t change her name. Your daughter won’t mind being one of three. She is her name now, it belongs to her.
But someone else disagreed, writing: “Of course you can change her name! Lots of people change, not to something completely different, but definitely a change! I know lots of children who go by their second name at school or use a shortened version.
“My son is 7 and is changing his name for September to a shortened version for exactly the same reason as you. There is another child with the same name and he is determined that he will not be known by his name plus surname.”
The mum later returned to the post to say she had asked her daughter if she wanted to change her name but she had said no. She did not state whether or not she had still gone through with the plan.